Do you ever wonder how to stop worrying about your child?
Since becoming a mother two-and-a-half years ago, I now know exactly how it feels to worry all the time. As moms, we have this strange ability to imagine the worst heart-wrenching ways our children can get hurt. It’s almost like we torture ourselves with the possibilities. Please tell me I’m not alone.
Just about a week ago, me and my husband took our toddler for a walk in the neighborhood. And I went from smiling and laughing at him playing with his dad, to thinking about all the kids who don’t get to enjoy life because they were kidnapped, or they are starving, or they are abused. And I started picturing my son in such scenarios, planning out in my head what I would do if someone suddenly rolled up and tried to kidnap him.
And just the other day I was watching Titanic. (I have no idea why I thought it was a good idea to watch Titanic while pregnant. I’m an emotional mess). And every scene with a mother and her child had me picturing my son going through that traumatizing experience.
I mean, I could go on. There is no end to it!
On top of that, there’s enough to worry about in the natural, let alone the spiritual! Not only do I have to protect my son from the enemies of the natural world, I have to safeguard him from the dark world that wants to steal his salvation.
Constant Worry About My Child and His Salvation
It’s no secret that our postmodern culture is going in an anti-God direction. Any mature Christian can see that. Not that life has always been the picture perfect Christian world prior to today. But there are new lies surfacing that attack the basic fundamental truths of life. Lies and deception disguised as love and acceptance.
We are in a time now where we are having to defend things that used to be common sense. Things that if put under a certain light, seem “right”.
Can you imagine how confusing things are for kids right now? The sky isn’t blue anymore, it’s whatever you want it to be. Grass isn’t green, it’s whatever you feel like you want it to be that day. Truth isn’t truth. Truth is different from person to person. Love is love. You get my point.
So we as mothers, parents in general, we have a responsibility to steward our kids through this new web of lies that I don’t think has ever existed before on this scale.
These new lies threaten to steal our children’s souls. These new lies teach an anti-God agenda disguised as a progressive movement that seems to align more with love and inclusivity.
So, with all that being said, of course I worry about my 2-year-olds salvation! I worry that once he gets in school he’ll get swept up in the feel-goodness of it all, and think dear ole’ mom and dad are old-fashioned, religious bigots.
I’m constantly trying to think of ways to protect him from all the mess. But, the truth is we can’t shield them forever. We can do what we can while they are under our roofs, but once they are loosed into the world, what then? So, I worry.
If this sounds a bit like you and you’re also wondering how to STOP worrying about your child as it relates to his spiritual walk with God, keep reading.
What does the Bible say about Worrying?
So, what are we to do? Worry ourselves to death? Well, that’s definitely not what our Father wants for us. The Bible tells us not to worry about the things of tomorrow because today brings its own problems. God knows what we need.
Therefore do not be anxious about tomorrow, for tomorrow will be anxious for itself. Sufficient for the day is its own trouble.Mathew 6:34
God tells us not to worry. Worrying does nothing to help a situation. If anything, we should take that worry and convert it into action. Follow God’s instruction from His Word, and apply it to your parenting.
What does God tell me to do as a parent? What are some things I can do now to be in alignment with God’s Word as a mother?
To start, I wrote a post, How to Train Up a Child in a Godly Way, that will give you some ideas and specific scriptures as it relates to parenting. But, let’s talk a little more about taking action.
Am I Doing Enough as a Christian Mother
It’s so easy to think we’re not doing enough as moms. Especially when you start comparing yourself to everyone else.
But I do think mothers in today’s society have a new challenge, and we might have to step it up a bit more than we’re used to when it comes to instilling our children with Truth.
Is it enough to make our kids go to church on Sunday, and then maybe a weekday service? Is it enough to monitor what they’re watching, who they’re hanging out with, what they’re reading? Is it enough to homeschool them, only let them join Christian youth groups, etc?
Since my son is only 2, and my other isn’t even born yet, I haven’t had the opportunity to do some of these things. However, we’ve all heard stories of devout Christian parents whose children still end up leaving God later in life. Why is that? How could that be? Is it even worth putting in all the effort then?
Here are some alarming statistics:
- 70-75% Chrisitan youth leave church after high school
- More than half of college professors view evangelical students unfavorably
- College professors are five times more likely to identify themselves as atheists than the general public
- Atheists are writing books that are growing in popularity
- Christian youth in America are not being taught to cross examine skeptical and atheistic views.
(Statistics taken from: https://crossexamined.org/youth-exodus-problem/)
Guys…that’s a lot. We have some serious work to do. And unfortunately, as the stats show us, what we’ve been doing in the past has not been working.
However, that’s not to say we should stop all of these efforts. But as I’ve been sitting back and observing what’s been going on around us, and really meditating on how we’re going to navigate the challenging years to come, I’ve landed on 3 key things that I believe are crucial to raising our Chiristian children and letting go of the worry and anxiety.
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3 Ways to Ease Your Fears about Your Child’s Spiritual Future
I’m still in the early stages of motherhood. My son is just now starting to really talk, and I’m about to venture into another newborn phase. But, it’s so important to me that I think about these things now and not wait.
The enemy is constantly plotting, watching us and seeing how they can deceive us. So we cannot afford to wait when it comes to our babies. So that’s why I’ve been spending so much time thinking about this.
We are in real spiritual warfare, and our babies are not exempt. In fact, children are in the perfect state of mind to be deceived. So it’s our jobs as mothers to be diligent. Which bring me to number one on my list of 3 ways to ease our fears.
Being intentional is like my theme right now. This is important in all aspects of life. But especially when it comes to our children.
It’s not enough, especially these days, to simply teach our kids who God is, and then expect the rest to simply fall in place. We have to actively find opportunities to really instill the Gospel in their hearts. And this can be challenging when it’s not a habit of ours.
But that’s why I use the word intentional. Sometimes we have to deliberately go out of our way, on purpose, to teach our children in ways that we’re not used to. Our children will be encountering questions and objections that we never had to growing up.
So in order to be prepared to tackle these issues, we can’t just let them happen and deal with them as they come. We must think ahead and plan for these things as best we can.
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Coming to terms with the fact that I must be intentional if I hope to see results has really helped me with the question of how to stop worrying about your child and their spiritual future. It’s brought me peace because it gives me a plan. Instead of drowning in a sea of worry and panic, I have a direction. I need to actively pursue Truth for my kids and constantly share that with them in age appropriate ways.
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2. OBEY GOD’S WORD
The simplest thing we can do for our kids is obey God’s Word as it relates to raising our children. Let’s look at what the Bible tells us:
Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.Proverbs 22:6
The rod and reproof give wisdom, but a child left to himself brings shame to his mother.Proverbs 29:15
You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise.Deuteronomy 6:7
These are just a few scriptures in the Bible that guide us on how to parent our children. But we can also find plenty of Biblical examples of good mothers and fathers and learn from their experiences.
The entire Bible is filled with stories from history that are great lessons that we can use to teach our kids. And as Scripture tells us, if we teach them the Word of God diligently, we are on the right path.
God designed the mother/child relationship. So of course He knows what’s best when it comes to how to raise these little ones. Let’s listen closely to His Word and obey. Trusting in God’s parenting advice has been such a huge help in easing my worry.
If you’re looking for a toddler Bible, this is the one that I’m currently using. It’s cute and simple. Although, don’t underestimate the power of reading an adult Bible to your kids, even if they’re young. God’s Word will penetrate them even if they cannot fully understand what’s being said.
3. REST IN THE FATHER’S PEACE
And last, we have to learn to find peace with the fact that our children belong to God first, and that they’ve only been given to us for a season.
Ultimately, my son is God’s child, and God wants my son with Him even more than I do. I mean, do we think we love our kids more than God does?
God has commissioned us to steward out their journey while they are under our care. But only God can do the true heart work. So we do our part as He commands us, and when they are no longer under our care, God will still be keeping a close eye on them.
We have to believe and trust in that. Find peace in knowing that God loves your kids more than you can imagine, and He will leave the 99 for the one.
The truth is, my son is his own soul created by God. He did not come into this world with me, and he will not stand before God next to me. He was created to have his own walk with God separate from me. He is not my possession. God is his first parent, and I have to let go and trust God to do what needs to be done for my child’s salvation.
So, I hope this post helped to give you some new ways on how to stop worrying about your child and his/her spiritual future. What are some things that you do to help with your worry and anxiety for your kids?
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