Walking with God is important in every season of our lives, right? But what about walking with God in the season of motherhood? What does that look like?
Life can be pretty challenging sometimes, don’t you think? There are so many life-things pulling us this way and that way. From commitments and relationships to managing a home and maintaining a job. Then all the little things in between, like remembering to take your car for maintenance every three months, or meal planning every week, or staying up to date on the latest news.
There seems to be a lot that is expected of us. A lot more than we can handle at times. And it honestly seems like most people aren’t able to juggle all that life tosses at them successfully. Some part of life always seems to be falling behind.
And then…you become a mom. And 10,000 new responsibilities are added to your plate! Sometimes you just want to push the pause button on life and hit resume when you’ve had a chance to breathe.
This is why walking with God in the season of motherhood is so important. God can give us the peace and help we need to get through difficult parenting seasons. And yet, I don’t think enough of us truly lean on God in our season of motherhood like we could.
Additionally, what if when we sit back and actually look at all the different burdens we’ve allowed to pile up on our plate, we ask ourselves this question: What is the source of these burdens? Have we allowed the world to place burdens on us that God never intended for us to have?
Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.Mathew 11:28 (NIV)
In this verse, Jesus tells us to come to Him. That He will give us rest. That His burden is light. Christ will lighten our load if we just lean into Him. But I’m willing to bet that instead of allowing God to ease our burdens, most of us somehow have made walking with God a burden; an extra task, an extra thing to do every day that we just don’t have time for.
Read the Bible? With what time?
Pray? For how long?
God gets added to the burdensome, growing list of things to do. A list of things in which God probably never asked you to do in the first place.
Motherhood is a special season in a woman’s life. A precious and miraculous time where the God of the universe blesses her with a little soul that she can love and take care of. This season is worth embracing, and holding on to, and cherishing for all that it is.
However, oftentimes, instead of embracing our season of motherhood, we rush it along, trying to fill every minute of our days with tasks, commitments, and people. We try to be supermoms and do all the things. We take on more than we should, and worry and stress over things that should not even have our attention at this time in our lives.
And all of this not only distracts us from this wonderful season that goes by so fast. But it can keep us from walking with God.
What Does the Bible Say About Seasons in Your Life
As the season begins to change, and we start to make our way into Fall, the earth reminds us that shift is necessary and can be beautiful. Each time the season changes, there is a purpose. And each one of the four seasons fulfills a specific role in the overall flow.
I think this can also be said about our personal transitions. Each season of life serves a purpose and plays a part in our growth.
For everything there is a season, and a time for every matter under heaven. A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up what is planted; a time to kill, and a time to heal; a time to break down, and a time to build up; a time to weep, and a time to laugh; a time to mourn, and a time to dance; a time to cast away stones, and a time to gather stones together; a time to embrace, and a time to refrain from embracing.Ecclesiastes 3:1
This verse tells us that for EVERY MATTER under heaven, there is a time and a season. So, this means we can apply this to our daily lives. Every matter that concerns us has a time and a season.
What this tells us is that when you’re in season for a particular matter, then there are other matters that are off-season. So the off-season stuff should probably not be prioritized. Because if it’s not the right time for it, it probably won’t thrive anyway.
We can definitely apply this to our season of motherhood. Motherhood requires a lot. Tiny humans need a lot. And God has equipped moms to handle the task (with His help of course). But when we start to add additional burdens on top of our seasonal priorities, we get overwhelmed, begin to fall short, and forget to walk with God in the season.
This hurts our walk with God because He slowly begins to get pushed further down the list. And because we’ve become so busy, we forget to partner with Him in our parenting.
Walking with God in the Season of Motherhood
So, how do we walk with God in our season of motherhood? What does it mean to walk with God in this season? How do we prioritize the Father with so many other things going on? How can we put God first when there is so much to do?
Well, what I’ve learned is that successfully walking with God as a mom can be achieved by doing two things:
- Embracing your season as a mom.
- Inviting God to walk alongside you along the way.
By embracing your season of motherhood, you allow yourself to fall in love with this time in your life where you get to be a mom. You cherish this beautiful job God has bestowed upon you. Embracing it means to lean into it and to stop trying to rush it away. You embrace it when you stop overbooking yourself and just allow yourself to be mommy.
By embracing the gift of motherhood, you are respecting God’s will for your life in that season. And that place of respect and gratefulness is where you begin to walk with God. With this proper mindset, you can then invite God alongside you as you parent your kids.
Then, inviting God alongside your parenting journey can look as simple as calling out to him when your days are tough. Sometimes it can feel silly to ask God for strength because your toddler just spilled his lunch all over the floor for the second time. Or ask God for guidance on how to potty train. Or cry to God because you aren’t getting enough sleep.
But these are the types of challenges we deal with as mothers. Do we think God doesn’t care? Well, of course, He does. The Bible tells us in 1 Peter 5:7 to, “Cast[ing] all your anxieties on him, because he cares”. So God 100% cares about our anxieties and problems, no matter how silly and insignificant they seem.
List of Ways to Walk with God In Your Season of Motherhood
Motherhood provides unique opportunities for us to grow spiritually. We are challenged in different ways, and we learn new things about ourselves that we might need to work on.
And these areas that need improvement can be revealed to us while repeating mundane tasks, or dealing with a tantrum, or cleaning up a mess for the fifth time. We’re working on things like patience, perseverance, grace, understanding, self-control, etc.
So here is a list of specific, and simple, ways you can walk with God in your season of motherhood:
- Praying/Talking with God when you get frustrated instead of complaining
- Crying to God at night when your baby has woken up for the thousandth time
- Thanking God as you watch your beautiful babies play
- Asking God to help your patience
- Asking God to teach you how to manage it all
- Seeking God’s guidance on the small decisions, like how to prepare healthier meals on a budget
- Reading the Bible as you put your kids to sleep
- Playing worship music while you cook meals
- Stopping in the middle of a meltdown, and just asking Him for strength
- Getting some God-time in before the house wakes up, even if it’s only 10 minutes
- Converse with God constantly throughout the day
- Meditate on scripture while you move around the house
- Being present and undistracted with your kids pleases God as well
Walking with God in this season does not need to be complicated. It doesn’t have to look fancy or revolutionary. It’s simply embracing your season as a mom, and inviting in God’s presence every step of the way.
How to Embrace the Season You’re In as Christian Mom
There was a time, a not so far away time, when I felt like being “just a mom” wasn’t enough. I wasn’t offering the world enough. I felt like I didn’t have enough friends to share the gospel with. I wasn’t active enough in my community. I wasn’t visiting friends and family enough. I was just feeling constant guilt from not doing more and being more.
And I think that happens to a lot of us. We start feeling guilty that we are somehow not doing enough.
Now obviously, everyone’s situation is a little different. Maybe you should be contacting family more. Maybe you should be checking in on friends more.
However, specifically speaking to mothers, our first ministry is our husband and children. But how can we prioritize them if we are trying to prioritize everyone else? How can we be our best selves for them if we are unable to shake the guilt of not being more for everyone else?
This is not to say we should kick everyone else to the curb and just selfishly focus on our own family unit. But what seems to happen is that we start to harbor guilt for things that God never told us we had to do in the first place, or at least not to the degree that we think we have to.
For example, the Bible talks about how important friendships are. But it doesn’t say we have to have a million different friends in order to be a good friend and value friendship. What if we paired down our friendship group so that we can fully value those few friends, instead of spreading thin for a million?
Another example? Okay. The Bible values helping those less fortunate than us. But that doesn’t mean we have to over-commit ourselves to volunteer three times a week if we don’t have the capacity. If doing that is significantly eating into time with our family or preventing us from getting food on the table, it might be time to cut that down or even completely out for the season.
I had a lady in my neighborhood make the comment to me that because I was a stay-at-home mom, I should volunteer to be on the HOA board. She tried to convince me that it wouldn’t take much time, literally telling me I have the time since I’m home. And I started to allow myself to feel guilty for not doing it. But then I thought, nowhere in the Bible does God put this extra burden on me. I stay home to devote my time to my family. And at this current time in my motherhood season, I do not have the capacity to add extra responsibility. My son is 2, and I’m pregnant. And that was that. I let the guilt disappear.
Motherhood is already a huge job. And we cannot let the enemy guilt us into taking on so many outside projects and things that we forget about being moms.
How do we embrace our season of motherhood? By resisting the lie from the enemy that we should be doing more than being just moms at any given point. God will direct us if there is something extra He wants us to take on. And God’s direction comes with clarity, not confusion. Peace, not turmoil. And conviction, not burdensome guilt.
How to Know What Season You’re In as a Mom
So, how do we know what season we’re in? How do we know it’s the season to slow down, or the season to take on more commitments?
There are definitely different seasons of motherhood. There is the newborn stage right after the baby comes home where you get zero sleep and spend all your time changing diapers, feeding, and comforting a crying baby. Then the kids get a little older, maybe they start going to school. That frees up some time. Then they become independent teenagers and you hardly see them.
So, all seasons of motherhood do not look exactly the same. So how do you know what God wants you to prioritize in your current season? Here are a few things that can help you figure out what season you’re in:
- Seek clarity from God. God is the ultimate source to all our answers. Ask Him to make your path clear.
- Pay attention to how you feel in your life as it is right now. How are things going for you? Are you constantly feeling stressed, overwhelmed, spread thin? Well, that could be an indication that you’re not operating within your season.
- Observe your family. How are your choices affecting your husband and kids?
Walking with God in our season of motherhood is crucial to our sanity and spiritual growth. We cannot do it all alone, and we cannot grow spiritually without inviting Him into our daily lives.
God’s not waiting for us to have it all together before we come to Him. He wants us to come to Him now, holding a dirty diaper, with a baby on one hip and a toddler pulling at the other. He wants to partner with us in raising our kids. So let’s remember to take His offer, and accept the peace and help that can only He can provide.